Overcoming lifes hurdles

Recently, I had a bit of a challenge, and this one wasn’t just a small problem..

 So I wanted to turn it into a lesson for myself and anyone else who wants to use it as well.

I want to be real & honest with the people I come in contact with on my journey, because life isn't always going to be perfect, its not always going to be fun, its not ALWAYS going to be positive... Things will always go wrong. But life IS what you make it & how you react to it.

My lesson is all about the importance of having people in your life who wont just sit there, give you a cuddle & tell you "everything will be ok.. Everything happens for a reason"... 

This is a commonly used quote I think we have all heard before. Either from our mums, dads, brothers, sisters or even friends who just want to see you happy & make you feel better.. No one likes to see his or her loved ones upset. Which is something you also need in your life too. It’s all about balance.

But you also don't want to brush the problem under the rug either..  This lesson is about surrounding yourself with people who will give you a cuddle, care for you, listen to you but also, they will tell you what you NEED to hear but sometimes may not want to hear. 

 I will admit at times I have thrown my hands up in the air & had a cry about certain things that have gotten to me after a stressful work week.. It would be totally unrealistic for anyone in any walk of life to not let those things get to them. We all feel sad or upset at times & I am comfortable to openly admit it because it's something that builds strength & true character.

In saying that, I want to express how vital it is to have people who will sit down & WILL be completely straight forward with you to help hold you accountable. Because I certainly would not be where I am if it weren’t for those people in my life. 

As you will know, I’m a very independent person &  I always use to think I could solve things on my own, but we are all human & are sometimes incapable at times of sadness or disappointment to get back to where we were on our own. We do need a little help.. A lesson I had come to realize some time ago.

These people are the ones who see the problem & help you FIND a solution to that problem.. No matter how upset you are, how much you cry, hate the world or feel sorry for yourself at that time. They will sit there for however long it takes to work through to find the issue & also help you solve it..

I have two people in my life who do just this.. A very good friend who is someone so full of wisdom, love & intelligence who helps me through many of my life hurdles & the other is the person who I love & admire more than anything who pushes me to the absolute edge but gets the most out of me when he does that.. Because that is just how I work & he knows me better than anyone. These two people help me most when they are straight forward & help me SOLVE the problem.

No matter the obstacle, it can A L W A Y S be solved with the correct surrounding circle of influence. It doesn’t have to be a big circle.. I really only have two people in that circle who I have poured my heart out to so I can find a solution.. But they are the right people.

I wanted to share this with you & open my heart. While you are building your dream you need to surround yourself with people who not only comfort but also help solve problems.. The people that celebrate with you when you're on the top but who also help you back up to that point when you are struggling at a low.

At the end of the day, remember, the tough times make us stronger to succeed & not to just make us appreciate the great times when they come.. But also make us grateful for those times because you have the right people around you making the tough times worthwhile.

LOVE ELLIE x

"NEVER EVER LET SOMEONE MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DON'T DESERVE SOMETHING YOU WANT." - HEATH LEDGER